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It is with great sadness that I must share the news of Lorne's skeletal remains being recovered near I 93 in Concord, New Hampshire on April 14, 2006.

We had all hoped and prayed for a much different and happier outcome.

Please know that the family of Lorne Boulet appreciates all of the help and support from everyone.  Without all of you, this long, tough journey would have been far worse.

We will see you again, Lorne, in a much better place.  Fly high and soar with the angels.

We love and miss you, forever ~

Past means of awareness...

I am in the process of e-mailing all of the Police Departments in the United States the link to Lorne's website.  Those that do not have e-mail or who's e-mails come back, are being sent fliers with cover letters via postal mail.

 

I am putting the finishing touches to Lorne's newsletter together.  The newsletter will have more information than this page, so if you are interested in receiving it, please let me know.

 

We will be making up T-Shirts to sell with Lorne's face and website information on them.  The money for them will go into the Lorne Boulet Reward/Donation Fund.  The cost of the shirts will be $10.00 and as soon as they are done, I will add the photo to the website.

 

Lorne was a part of the "Road to Remember 2004" CUE tour.  His photo is in the upper left corner of the "N".

 

 

 

  Lorne is part of the "Adopt a Missing Person" program.      If you would like to take part, this is what you need to do...

Please send your self addressed stamped bubble mailer to:

Project Jason
Adopt a Missing Person Program
P.O. Box 3035
Omaha, NE 68103

If you have any questions about the program, email us at adopt@projectjason.org.

 

Lorne's Aunt and Cousin, Tim, are mentioned in the following article from Alabama....    Let's help ALL of the missing!!!
 
http://www.montgomeryadvertiser.com...V5jason926w.htm

Buttons put faces on missing adults

By Crystal Bonvillian
Montgomery Advertiser


Eleven-year-old Timothy Davis of Bristol, N.H., has never met LaQuanta Riley, but he carries a button emblazoned with her picture on his backpack every day in the hopes of someday easing her family's suffering.

Riley, now 20, got into a car outside her Montgomery home the night of Dec. 7 and has not been seen since. There have been few leads on her whereabouts. Her disappearance nearly 10 months ago has left many, including her family and the police, baffled.

"We've come to the point now where we've talked to everyone," said Montgomery police Sgt. Scott Martino, a detective working the case. "Right now, she's still considered missing, and we hope for the best. We hope that we'll find her alive and well."

Riley's case has gained new interest, however, in the form of Project Jason, a Nebraska-based organization that helps families of the missing. Kelly Jolkowski, the organization's president, founded the group after her 19-year-old son, Jason Jolkowski, disappeared from outside their Omaha home one June afternoon in 2001.

"There are no indications that he's a runaway to me," Jolkowski said. "But there's no proof of anything happening to him. That's what these families are going through -- the limbo. These families deserve some peace of mind."

Project Jason, which celebrates its first anniversary Oct. 6, began the "Adopt a Missing Person" program June 13, the third anniversary of Jason's disappearance. Riley is one of the adopted.

"These folks have been a blessing," said Pam Riley, LaQuanta's mother. Pam Riley and her aunt, Katie Smith, sat in Riley's living room Friday and talked about the struggle of living without LaQuanta.


A close-up look at the button of the missing woman, LaQuanta Riley.
"The rumors are horrible," said Smith, who raised LaQuanta when a then-16-year-old Pam Riley realized she could not handle a newborn baby. "If you listen to them all, they'll drive you crazy."

The worst rumor dealt with the false discovery of LaQuanta Riley's remains, Smith said. There have also been rumors about the bubbly young woman, who was preparing to go to college, being held captive by abductors.

"I don't take calls from anyone anymore," Pam Riley said. "If they can't call me and tell me they're looking at her face or if they can't tell me they're holding her hand, I don't want to hear from them."

LaQuanta Riley's disappearance is the latest in a string of tragedies the family has faced. Her grandmother -- Pam Riley's mother and Smith's sister -- was murdered in August 1972, when Pam Riley was 4. Her killer has never been caught.

The family was dealt another blow in 1996, when Pam Riley's younger daughter, Kamesha, died of AIDS. She was just 9.

"She was molested when she was about 4," Pam Riley said. "He was HIV-positive and he passed it on to her. 'Quanta is the only daughter I have left."

ADOPTING A MISSING PERSON

Below are the steps you can take to adopt LaQuanta Riley or any of the more than 200 people profiled on Project Jason's Web site.

Visit www.projectjason.org: Go through the list of missing people and choose as many as you would like to adopt.

A trip to the post office: Send a self-addressed, stamped bubble mailer to Project Jason, Adopt a Missing Person Program, P.O. Box 3035, Omaha, Neb., 68103.

Is your postage correct? Be sure to check that the proper amount of postage is affixed, depending on the size of your mailer and how many buttons you are requesting. A 4x7 mailer requires two 37-cent stamps, and a 6x9 mailer requires three.

Source: Project Jason


Kamesha's death has made LaQuanta Riley's disappearance that much harder for her four brothers to deal with, her mother said. They declined to be interviewed for this story.
"They won't talk about it," Pam Riley said. "If someone brings it up, they leave the room."

She said that she got involved with Project Jason through a member of a support group. Through Jolkowski's organization, buttons and flyers have been distributed, and LaQuanta Riley's face and information are on numerous Web sites. Earlier this month, LaQuanta's own Web site, www.findlaquanta.com, was established.

"Someone has to know something," Pam Riley said. "Montgomery ain't that big and Alabama ain't that big. Somebody saw something."

The family's one hope now is that someone will see a flyer or button with LaQuanta's face on it and come forward.

Timothy Davis' mother, Louise Holmburg, said her son is proud to wear LaQuanta Riley's picture each day.

"Timothy wears the button and tells people about LaQuanta," Holmburg said. "He carries her information sheet with him. It was so cute, he tried to remember it all by heart, but I told him to bring the sheet with him. I told him he didn't want to give people the wrong information."

Like the Riley family, Holmburg is searching for a loved one. Her nephew, Lorne Boulet Jr., a paranoid schizophrenic, disappeared from Chichester, N.H., in July of 2001.

"Even with the age difference, he and Timothy were best friends," Holmburg said. "Most people were leery because of the schizophrenia, but my kids were so young they didn't look at that. Their love for him was unconditional."

As is the love of LaQuanta Riley's family, her mother and great-aunt said.

"If she did leave because of something she thought we wouldn't be understanding about, we want her to know we love her no matter what," Smith said, wiping tears from her eyes. "Bad or good, I love her."

"I just can't wait for 'Quanta to come home so I can hear the whole story," Pam Riley said. "She needs to come home."

 

TheOmahaChannel.com

You Can Adopt Missing Person

Help Find Disappeared Person Through Web Site

POSTED: 8:55 AM CDT July 16, 2004
UPDATED: 9:06 AM CDT July 16, 2004

An online Web site is providing a very low-tech way to help find missing persons.
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Video: Mother Turns Grief To Good
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The mother of a missing boy created the program to adopt missing persons in an effort to find them. Kelly Jolkowski's son, Jason, disappeared more than three years ago.

The idea is to visit the Web site and adopt someone who has disappeared. Participants wear a button with the person's photo.

"When they adopt the person, they kind of pledge to bring about awareness by wearing that person's button," said Jolkowski. "Just like I'm wearing Jason's button. They can put it on their backpack, their purse. When they're wearing that button out in public, and someone says, Why do you wear that button?' They can say, this is so-and-so and she's been missing since whatever date and give additional information."

Along with a button, participants get a detailed description about the missing person.

Jolkowski hopes the program will be one of her son's legacies, reminding people of his generous nature.

There have been more than 100 adoptions so far. The project is nationwide.

Here is the link to the video footage of the "Adopt a Missing Person" program.  Way to go Kelly!!!http://www.theomahachannel.com/news/3537156/detail.html

 

Please visit the link below as they have a segment on Lorne....

WATCHERSFORMISSING.COM
 

http://www.watchersformissing.com/id13.html

Walking Them Home (article) ~

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www.citizen.com/October_2...02_04a.asp
Saturday, October 2, 2004 E-mail This Article
Personal walks to raise awareness for missing people
Prompted by Chichester disappearance


By BETHANY GORDON

Newfound Area Bureau

BRISTOL...  A local woman has developed "Walking Them Home," an event to raise awareness and proceeds for missing people throughout the world.

Louise Holmburg created the event as a way to promote physical fitness as well as awareness for the missing. She said it is an event anyone can easily take part in.

To participate in Walking Them Home, participants will walk at their individual pace and distance from Oct. 15 to Dec. 4 to total 1,173 minutes.

"If people walk just 23 minutes a day, whether it be walking to work, school, shopping, doing housework or just going out for a stroll, they will have met their goal," said Holmburg.

Holmburg established Walk Them Home for very personal reasons her 24-year-old nephew disappeared more than three years ago.

Participants were given a 1,173 minute goal, said Holmburg, because "as of October 15, Lorne will be missing for 1,173 days."

Lorne Richard Boulet disappeared from his parent’s home in Chichester three years ago at the age of 21. Reports show Boulet left his home in the early evening to take a walk and never returned.

"He left everything," said Holmburg, "his wallet, watch, cell phone, identification, social security card" things he always had with him."

Boulet’s case is special because he was a diagnosed Schizophrenic and did not have his prescription medication when he disappeared. Holmburg said Boulet began receiving treatment for his disability in months prior to his disappearance.

Boulet developed Schizophrenia after experimentation with the drug Ecstasy.

"He was a role model for my boys," said Holmburg. "He talked to them about the dangers of drug abuse and peer pressure and it was an lesson for them."

Among Holmburg’s main concerns is Boulet’s ability to survive on his own. "People with Schizophrenia can’t regulate their body temperature," she said. "When he left for his walk in July he was wearing fleece from head to toe."

As the disease progressed, Boulet also lost many practical skills and became overly-trusting. "He almost went back to being a kid at times," said Holmburg. "At one point he gave away his Discman and all of his CD’s to a homeless man."

Boulet’s disappearance was very difficult for the family, especially to Holmburg. "He used to call me Auntie Wease," she said. "This has been so hard on my boys," she said of her four sons.

Holmburg spends every day searching for her nephew, and has found the Internet to be a valuable tool.

"I’ve gotten to meet other people in similar situations, who are friends and families of missing people."

Holmburg began to network with families from throughout the country who provide support and information for the families. Holmburg even learned to create a Web site in Boulet’s honor, which has received more than 19,000 hits.

Holmburg said she was inspired to create Walking Them Home by a similar walk in Alaska called the "Idita Walk."

"We’re trying to get walkers from every state," said Holmburg, "and we’ve already got nine states."

With a registration fee, participants will receive a Walking Them Home T-shirt. Kenny Duquet, a junior at Newfound Regional High School is designing the front," said Holmburg, "and the back will have Web sites of missing people from throughout the country."

Holmburg is trying to raise ,000 for her nephew’s reward fund. "I still have hope," she said, "and maybe this will be what it takes to get him back."

Boulet graduated from Pembrook Academy in 1998 and worked in a number of area stores, and was employed by Wal-Mart when he disappeared.

"He was a functional Schizophrenic," said Holmburg, "and he was loving."

Among Boulet’s distinguishing characteristics is a pierced left ear, small scars over each eyebrows, a missing left front tooth and a tribal band tattoo with a cross on his left bicep. Today, Boulet would be 24.

The close-knit family has been torn over the loss, but does not lack faith. Boulet’s parents, Evelyn and Lorne have become active in Ident-a-Kid, an organization that develops identification cards for minors.

"I pray he will come back to us every day," said Holmburg. "If a day goes by when I don’t look for Lorne, I feel like I let him down."

Registration for the walk will end of Oct. 15, but late registrations are welcome. For more information about Lorne Boulet or Walking Them Home visit www.findlorne.faithweb.com.

 

 

Concord Monitor on Walking Them Home

Chichester

Walking Them Home: Walking Them Home is an event that promotes physical fitness as well as awareness for the missing. As of Friday, Lorne Boulet will be missing for 1,173 days. To participate in Walking Them Home, a personal walk plan, you walk at your own pace and distance from Friday through Dec. 4 for a total of 1,173 minutes. To receive your Walking Them Home T-shirt, a registration fee is required by Friday. Entry fees can be mailed to Lorne Boulet Reward/Donation Fund, P.O. Box 426, Bristol 03222-0426.

 

Yard Sale - Bake Sale - Craft Fair

On December 4, 2004 at the Chichester Grange (Main Street), we will be holding a yard sale - bake sale - craft fair from 10 - 4.  This is too help raise money for Lorne's REWARD.

Please stop by and enjoy yourself...   There will be a Yankee Candle Raffle, Talking Santa, Musical Snowmen Raffles as well as a 50/50 (and many more).

There will be crafts for children to make while there, Ident-A-Kid, and other things.

Show your support to Lorne and his parents.

 

Monday, January 31, 2005 E-mail This Article
Family marks anniversary of Chichester man’s disappearance

By STEFANIE PHILLIPS

Newfound Area Bureau

BRISTOL... Anniversaries usually reflect a happy time and a day to remember, but for one family, Jan. 29 marks the 3½ year anniversary of the disappearance of a loved one.

"Not all anniversaries are good anniversaries," said Louise Holmburg, aunt of Lorne Boulet, who has been missing since July 29, 2001. "It’s hard for people to realize that a man disappeared."

Boulet disappeared from his home in Chichester on the evening of July 29. He went out for his daily walk and never returned home, though he left all personal belongings, including his wallet, cell phone and forms of identification. Boulet was diagnosed with schizophrenia in the months leading up to his disappearance and his family fears that he may have become disoriented. Holmburg said that he may not realize that his family is worried about him.

Holmburg has not given up hope, devoting the majority of her hours to contacting police departments, hospitals and homeless shelters across the country and said that she won’t stop until she reaches every state. She has set up a Web site devoted to Boulet and has joined several organizations in an attempt to get Boulet’s name and picture to the public. Priscilla Istvan helps her file letters, print up fliers and address envelopes.

Holmburg has become involved in several events. She organized "Walking Them Home," a walk for missing persons in October. On April 2, she, along with will Boulet’s parents, Evelyn and Lorne Boulet Sr. of Chichester, plans to attend the National Round Table Conference for missing person organizations in Wilmington, N.C. She also plans to attend the fourth annual Missing Persons Day in Latham, N.Y. She is hoping that Boulet’s picture will appear on Racing West driver Darrell LaMoure’s race car hood this summer.

"If we don’t find him, I hope wherever he is, he is safe and happy," Holmburg said, adding Boulet was very close with her sons. "When it’s time for Lorne to come home, he will. I just want him home now."

Holmburg’s Web site can be viewed at www.findlorne.faithweb.com. A reward for the exact location of Boulet is being offered and any information can be directed to the Chichester Police Department at 798-4911.

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From March 16 - the end of the month, Lorne has been selected for the Come Home program with Project Jason.

To find out more information about this program, please visit...

www.projectjason.org/comehome.html

 

On April 2, Lorne's family will be attending the Missing Person's Round Table Conference 2005 in North Carolina.  This will be VERY informational.

To learn more about the organization hosting this event (CUE Center for Missing Persons), please go to...     www.ncmissingpersons.org

 

 

Lorne is being featured on the front cover of "The Missing Voice".  The is a Newsletter for the National Center for Missing Adults.  The issue that Lorne is featured in is on Schizophrenia, other Mental Disabilities, and Missing Adults.

The link in which you can view this newsletter is...  http://www.theyaremissed.org/ncma/newsletter/vol1issue3.pdf

I want to take this opportunity to thank the NCMA for adding Lorne to this issue.  I find it to be an Honor and truly appreciate you doing so.  My quote that was quoted holds true.  Thank you to all of you!  With much respect, the Family of Lorne Boulet

 

NASCAR Elite Division, Southwest Series...

Herold & Pettit inspire multiple families with hope!  

Joe Herold and Jim Pettit II both competing in the Nascar Elite division Southwest Series provide multiple families hope and inspiration Saturday night under the lights of Stockton 99 Speedway, these two veterans of the sport prepare for battle with purpose.  

Racing for the Missing`s (RFTM) a division of the Nations Missing Children’s Organization www.nmco.org Founded a Personal Safety & Awareness program back in 1999 utilizing motorsports as their instrument to reach the public. “The hood of a stock car is perfect, its size allows for a larger then life vinyl likeness of a missing person and there contact information to be displayed in a position everyone can see” Said Darrell LaMoure Co-founder of RFTM with wife Shelley 

Joe Herold of Poway, California and his # 5 Quality Chevrolet will profile Lorne Boulet JR of New Hampshire http://www.theyaremissed.org/ncma/gallery/ncmaprofile_all.php?A200401150S. Loren Boulet JR turned twenty-five this past March and is still missing Lorne`s family is beyond concern! Lorne is a white male five foot eight inches tall with sandy hair blue eyes weighing two hundred twenty pounds. Lorne was last seen near his residence at 40 block of Perry Brook Rd. in Chichester, NH. He left the residence to go for a walk but never returned. Lorne has a medical condition. Lorne may have been seen near Hollywood, Ca area recently, if you have any information concerning Lorne please contact the Chichester Police Department at (603) 798-4911  

“ More people should join the cause it’s a good thing the Racing for the Missing program and Pettit I can’t say enough about this mans character” said Joe Herold 

Jim Pettit II the newest associate to join RFTM will make his inaugural profile at Stockton, Jim will proudly feature Molly Dattilo of Indiana http://www.theyaremissed.org/ncma/gallery/ncmaprofile_all.php?A200401678S on his Ford.  

“ We are excited to help out I have watched Darrell for years and now Joe when Darrell and I talked about this it motivated me” Said Jim Pettit II 

Molly Dattilo a white female five-foot tall brown hair with blonde highlights and hazel eyes with a Brown birthmark on outside of right elbow slightly deformed tip of left thumb and nail. Molly dropped off an employment application at a restaurant near 10th St. and Hwy 465. She returned to her residence and was last seen near the 500 block of Lakeview Ln. in Indianapolis, IN. All personal belongings including her cellular phone, vehicle, bankcard, and identification were left at the residence. Molly’s family believes someone knows something, if you have information concerning her whereabouts please contact the Marion County Sheriff's Department at (317) 231-8150  

“This isn’t the first time two drivers have profiled missing persons at the same event however its personally fulfilling to know we have two very competitive and caring teams sacrificing valuable space on their racecars to assist our neighbors. These guys provide us hope for a better environment in which we live” Darrell LaMoure commented 

Where & When: Saturday April 30, 2005 Stockton 99 Speedway Stockton, California presents the AutoZone Twin Championships presented by Havoline a HDNet broadcast. Gates open at noon racing at 6:00 PM  

End of release  

Many thanks to...

Darrell & Shelley LaMoure (Racing West) for all of the e-mails, phone conversation, and putting your time and dedication into the search for the Missing and for making this possible for Lorne.

Erin Bruno (National Center for Missing Adults) for taking my e-mails even when she was no longer working on the Racing for the Missing and directing them to Wade Smith.

Wade Smith (NCMA) for working with Darrell LaMoure and the Racing for the Missing "crew".  When I received that call from you, it was like light shining through a dark cloud.  Thank you for this opportunity!

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 http://www.concordmonitor.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20050805/REPOSITORY/508050311/1013/NEWS03

Above is the link for the newspaper article on Lorne from the Concord Monitor that followed his 4 Year Vigil & Balloon Release.

 

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Missing

Thousands of mentally ill people vanish every year, barely noticed except by families and friends

Lorne Boulet Jr.'s disappearance came without warning. The childlike, schizophrenic man left his New Hampshire home for a walk one summer afternoon more than four years ago and simply never returned.

James Rowe veered between giddiness and sobs in his last phone conversation with his sister as he described the way a July 2004 conference on personal growth had changed him. Over the next few days, the Colorado restaurant owner abandoned his vehicle, shaved his head, and walked into the woods -- and his family hasn't heard from him since.

Michael Hogan, a shy man with obsessive compulsive disorder, left his job in Vermont one day, saying he needed to be alone. Eight months later, his mother is still so convinced he will call that she's left this message on her answering machine: ''Michael, if this is you, please let me know how I can contact you. . . . I miss you so much."

Boulet, Rowe, and Hogan are among thousands of mentally ill men and women who disappear each year -- barely noticed outside of their families and a clutch of organizations devoted to keeping their hopes alive. Their advocates believe that most of the 8,000 missing adults listed by the FBI as ''endangered" or ''disabled" suffer from some kind of mental illness and may have experienced a psychological break with reality that prompts them to abandon their former lives or attempt suicide.

The missing tend to be men, and their mental health problems run the gamut from sudden breakdowns in the face of adversity to chronic illnesses such as schizophrenia, which can cause delusions or feelings of paranoia. Bipolar disorder, which causes wide mood swings, also accounts for some of the disappearances; its victims follow unpredictable impulses.

''Usually there is some sort of inner logic" when people with mental illness flee, ''even though it seems strange to other people," said Dr. Dost Ongur, director of the schizophrenia and bipolar disorder program at McLean Hospital. ''They might say they need to enroll in the armed services because they really need to go to Iraq to help America when everybody else says, 'You're 65 and you've got a bad back. It doesn't sound like a good idea.' "

The disappearance of an adult -- especially a man -- doesn't usually trigger the intensive communitywide searches that law enforcement agencies launch for missing children. Their disappearance doesn't automatically stir fears of foul play, so police are sometimes slow to investigate thoroughly. And adults can legally leave their lives behind, even if they are not thinking clearly.

''An adult has the right to be missing," said Roy Weise, senior adviser at the FBI's Criminal Justice Information Services, which maintains the national list of missing people. ''The wife may think he's missing, but he may be right where he wants to be." Hospitals and homeless shelters, which often house mentally ill people, are caught in a bind, too, needing to protect clients' privacy when desperate loved ones inquire about them. ''If a family member calls me up and says, 'I'm looking for my brother,' we will get a message to that person," said John Yazwinski of Father Bill's Place homeless shelter in Quincy. But, he adds, it's up to the shelter resident whether to respond.

As a result, family members can feel like they're carrying out the search by themselves, circulating ''missing" flyers, maintaining websites, raising reward money, and passing along tips to law enforcement officials.

Louise Holmburg of Bristol, N.H., has turned her van into a traveling billboard about her nephew Boulet, complete with his picture on the side and an e-mail address (findlorne@yahoo.com) for tips. She said people often assume that because Boulet is 25 and weighs more than 200 pounds, he can take care of himself, but ''he's a kid at heart. . . . My best guess would be that his mind got the best of him and he walked away."

Holmburg, like other relatives of missing people with mental illness, is bitter at the lack of public interest compared with the intense focus on sensational cases like ''runaway bride" Jennifer Wilbanks, who initially claimed she had been abducted before admitting she fled because of anxiety about her wedding.

Officials at Project Jason, a Nebraska organization that spotlights missing people, said the media have covered only one of their last seven press releases about a missing adult, most of whom have mental illness.

Once mentally ill people leave their home area, advocates say, they're unlikely to be located unless police stop them by chance and run their name through the FBI's National Criminal Information Center, which has a list of missing people that is available only to law enforcement agencies.

The private National Center for Missing Adults maintains the most extensive publicly available list (www.theyaremissed.org), but its site includes only about 1,173 names, and only a fraction of those are mentally ill.

''Not only is it like looking for a needle in a haystack, but there's a million haystacks and you're blindfolded," said Kelly Jolkowski, founder of Project Jason (www.projectjason.org), named after her 19-year-old son, who did not have a history of mental illness but disappeared from his Nebraska driveway in 2001. ''There really aren't a lot of resources for missing adults."

Many families get discouraged about the lack of progress -- and even interest -- in finding their loved one. People who have been diagnosed with mental illness are likely to be off their medications, making them more unpredictable as the weeks drag on -- and more likely to hurt themselves. Up to 40 percent of people with schizophrenia attempt suicide at some point, and people with major mental illnesses are more likely to abuse drugs, putting their safety further at risk.

James Bowman of Kiamesha Lake, N.Y., suspects that his son is dead, a year and a half after he left their home in the middle of the night. Patrick Bowman, who would now be 47, suffers from bipolar disorder, which subjected him to wide and unpredictable mood swings, his father said, a problem made worse by a cocaine addiction.

''Whatever happened to him is limited only by your imagination," said the elder Bowman. ''The only thing I want is that he's not suffering."

FBI officials said the situation for families is far from hopeless. Law enforcement agencies check their database 5 million times daily, including for routine background checks of people stopped for traffic violations. Agency officials estimate that police checks of the FBI list helped in the recovery of 50,000 missing adults and children last year, though only a small fraction of that number were mentally ill adults.

Police say they take the disappearance of adults very seriously when there are doubts about the person's safety. For instance, Corpus Christi, Texas, police conducted helicopter searches of a remote beach last month where a depressed man abandoned his car after leaving a suicide note. Samuel Young Chong had dropped out of college without telling his parents, who apparently triggered Chong's disappearance when they came for what they believed would be his graduation.

Mike Walsh, commander of criminal investigations for the Corpus Christi police, said, ''We were expecting, based on the rhetoric, that we were going to find a body. Instead, police ultimately traced Chong to Los Angeles, allowing a relative to find him at an Internet cafe there and persuade him to return home.

But for every missing person like Chong, whose case has a happy ending, there are many more like Michael Jarvi of Naselle, Wash., a man with schizophrenia last seen before he abandoned his Ford Escort in an Oregon trailer park in March 2002. His parents received word from a DVD club recently that Jarvi's membership has been paid through April 2005, suggesting that he's still alive, but most of the other supposed tips have gone nowhere.

''How do you even guess where he is?" said Jarvi's father, James Jarvi. ''Every day you think about it, but you've just got to hope for the best."

Scott Allen can be reached at allen@globe.com.